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Life is like a roller-coaster
“I’d like a simple wife, a simple two storey house with one or two kids and an eight hour job from Mondays to Fridays,” says Jack Cheng to his college friend, Bryan Kent, as the two share a cold brew together at a small worn down pub near their University.
“And what exactly do you mean by a simple wife?” asks Bryan.
“I don’t want drama. I don’t want a girl who wears flashy clothes or who parties and drinks too much. I prefer the conservative types,” Jack says.
“I see, and as for the eight hour job? Would you be really satisfied with that?”
“Sure, mate. As long as it pays the bills, I’m pretty sure I’ll be completely happy with my life.”
The above-mentioned conversation is fictitious, but the gist of it is not.
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Simplicity takes a lot of effort and that effort may possibly be a direction away from your true self
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All our lives, we are taught to avoid complications—be it in relationships, career, or lifestyle—the high maintenance girl/guy, the choosy vegan, or the non-traditional job. We are taught to pursue a life that’s predictable. Our dear friend Jack shows us that we are taught to keep our goals simple and to steer clear from any possible difficulty that may come along. Avoiding intricacies at all costs will make life easier and bring the satisfaction we very much crave. What we fail to realize is that in our hardest attempt to remain simple, we are placing ourselves in a cage where the slightest of chaos scares us. We are limiting the human potential of achieving more, and hindering our growth because we are afraid of breaking barriers.
Fact is humanity will never be simple. Complexity will always exist in our lives. And instead of embracing our complexities, we wear ourselves out with aspirations of a simple life.
As a gym rat, let me use the logic of shaking up your workout in order to gain strength and growth. The idea is that after a few months, you need to “shock” your body in order for it to grow further and gain more strength. This happens by changing your routine—by forcing your body to adapt to repetitive shifts in your workout plan. Life responds to a similar logic. We need complications for us to grow and reach our potential as human beings because if we don’t, we get stuck at one point. In the world of body-building, it’s called plateauing.
Simplicity takes a lot of effort and that effort may possibly be a direction away from your true self. So instead of wasting away any effort to maintain simplicity, why can’t we just embrace complicated elements of our life? Let’s face it—the complications in our lives are what make us original. It builds character and— whether we like it or not—is part of our very core identity.
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